Right now, my husband and I are in a little tiff about who is responsible for cleaning what. This has been an on going agreement ever since his lived with me. It goes like this.
Cody says “I work more hours then you so I don’t think I should have to do more around here.” We both have only 2 days off. His “more” hours consist of having a paper route in the morning for HIS extra cash like I have my photography on the side for MY extra cash. Plus I feel like I do more with the kid.
like feed him and bath him.
So we go back and forth about who should do the dishes, who should do the laundry, and clean the bathroom. He will say “you do them and I will put them away.” which I think is bull because I end up doing all the HARD work while he’d get to sit and then put them away. All I am asking from him is to do at least one job completely. So then I also have time to do the things I love.
But with all that being said I get why he also gets overwhelmed with me. Because I am the type of person who when I have a day off I don’t use it to catch up on the house work I use it to catch up on my time with Wyatt.
We have Wyatt dates.
Sunday I had the day off so we woke up early, ate breakfast and hurried to the only movie time they had for Winnie the Pooh. Wyatt sat next to me filling his belly with a huge bucket of popcorn and fishy gummies. He would laugh at the appropriate time which made me think about just how big he was getting.
Here I was with a two and half year old boy who acts like he is four. He understands, knows when to listen, and is potty trained plus holds conversations with me.
A year ago I craved for this type of interaction from him. I wanted these quite moments that we now have on these dates. I wanted the questions he asks, I wanted the quite giggles in the movies, I wanted the shirks of happiness when something excites him. But really honestly I just wanted the conversations.
Of course when I plan in my head for our date I think this (READ THIS HUSBAND) We will go to ________ , then I will come home and do the dishes and or laundry etc."
But once the main event is finished I then think this… “That was so fun what else could we do?” The dishes are put out of my mind and we just keep going on our date.
the “what else we could do” event we did Sunday was go to the aquarium.
Now I have known about this place for awhile but its like an hour drive away so we never gone before which I regret now.
This aquarium was small but a blast. We saw on ton of fishes, sea horses, snakes, frogs, bugs, jelly fish. but the main event were the penguins. They swam so fast jumping out of the water it was fantastic!
We ended up going through the aquarium 3 or 4 times but what was great that each time we went through it Wyatt got excited to see the same things that it was like he never saw them before it was fantastic!
So the dishes and laundry can wait because Wyatt will never be this age again. Ever. and I feel like it is more important to spend this type of time with him then it is to have a clean house.
Could I clean more and be less on the computer? Yes.
But husband could you help out more too? Yes.
So pick dude, laundry or dishes?